Obligatory “About Me”

Really? You want to know something about me? It’s not enough for you to know that I blog D/s erotica?

I’m a Dominant. Looking back over my life it was always there. The relationships that were satisfying were those that in hindsight had an echo of the D/s dynamic, though I didn’t realise it at the time. In the difficult aftermath of a relationship that started almost 7 years ago, I thought very hard about what had been successful about it and why, what had drawn us together so intensely, and what had driven a wedge between us so catastrophically. The jigsaw pieces fell into place, and I realised what I needed to be fulfilled.

It took me a little while to put a name to it, partly because D/s has such a broad spectrum, and I’m hesitant to identify with some of it, and positively reject other aspects of it. And partly because that awful book didn’t remotely reflect my instinct. But I suspect I’m not alone in that, and each to their own. Unlike many wanna-be-Doms and fakey-Doms, dim-Doms and con-Doms, I learned from my early struggle to define my instinct that there is no right way, just the way that works for you. But also that there’s no point pretending to be something you’re not to get the girl and hope you can change her to be what you need, because you can no more change someone’s D/s instinct than their gender preference.

So this blog isn’t a ‘How To’ guide: I’m a Dominant, not an arrogant try-hard so I don’t say how it should be. It’s about my way; my thoughts, my opinions.

But if you really want to know about me, you’re better off following me on twitter rather than reading a few paragraphs of me telling you how great I am. You can start to get a good idea of my instincts by reading my Thoughts On a few subjects around D/s.

Well? Go on.


© Charles Rochester 2016

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