Until a girl submits to a Dom, he should be a gentleman. He should talk with her, laugh with her, get to know her, and let her get to know him. He’ll flirt with her, perhaps push at her boundaries a little…
But he should not dominate her, instruct her or expect her to do as she’s told. Because she’s not his to dominate or instruct.
But a girl who’s worth taking care of, who’s looking for a man who she knows can dominate, instruct and be trusted, is not going be excited, or feel a spark with a man who isn’t showing that side of his character. But he’s not showing it, because it’s not appropriate until after she is his.
It’s a bit of a catch-22. How do you get the trust to express the kink, without the spark that’s needed to bother building the trust, a spark that won’t be there unless you can both express the kink?